Friday, May 8, 2015

The Gift of Time

It's Secret Subject Swap Day! This week, 16 brave bloggers picked a secret subject for someone else and were assigned a secret subject to interpret in their own style. Today we are all simultaneously divulging our topics and submitting our posts.

My Subject is: Mother's Day, what is the BEST present you ever received as a mom OR gave to your mom.

It was submitted by:


I don’t think Ive ever discussed it here on my blog, but on a Myers-Brigg inventory, I am an INFJ (introverted, intuitive, feeling, judging type). In a nutshell, it means that I crave authenticity and deep connections. I am passionate about issues that interest me and get deeply involved in those issues. As a parent, I foster independence in my child. In friendships, I want soul mates. And, in relationships I want actions not words. No matter how complicated my inner world is, I appreciate a simple life. I tend to put a fair amount of stock into the MBTI given that I am a counseling major, but it really does encapsulate the basic foundation of my personality even down to the weaknesses.

It’s that foundation—the need for authentic connections and the simplicity—that really means it isn’t necessarily the gift itself but the thought behind it that matters when someone gives me something. Given that I’m not a traditional kind of person, which I really don’t think has anything to do with my personality type, I don’t necessarily care about getting gifts on Mother’s Day. I mean, don’t get me wrong—I will totally accept one. ha. But, it isn’t a necessity.

In that regard the greatest gift I’ve ever gotten is being able to spend time with The Boy.

Awww. Sounds wretchedly cheesy doesn’t it?

It’s the truth, though.

I’m divorced and have been since 2008. That means I have to give the kiddo up generally every other weekend though we don’t really have a stable, set schedule. So, Mother’s Day doesn’t always happen on my weekends. We manage to work it out, though, and rearrange things if it happens that I won’t have him on MD or his father won’t have him on FD. Things are easy (perhaps because I overlook a lot of bullshit for the sake of ensuring the two of them have a good relationship not strained by tension), and I appreciate that. Mother’s Day is just one of those things that people do, it seems. They rush to buy gifts, give them, and get back to their own interests and lives, so right now all I want is to enjoy the little moments I have with my boy before he’s the one rushing around himself. For me, the greatest gift is that extra time and the extra appreciation. Evan never complains about weekends being changed around. In fact, that’s the way it has worked out this year, and he’s actually pretty ecstatic to be here for his mom. On Sunday, we’ll hang out more than usual. He’ll probably hold my hand when we watch a movie and make sure that he gives me less attitude when I ask him to help me clean up. He might even volunteer to help out without me even having to ask him (Whoa!). We’ll probably watch something old school that I loved when I was a kid so I can share my nostalgia with him and be enthralled with his excitement over something that brought me joy (or be crushed when he hates it like when I showed him The Labyrinth. I almost disowned him). Popcorn, sarcasm, MST3K style jokes no matter what we watch, dinner at my mom’s (for which I am making lemon sour cream cheesecake)… 

What gift could top that anyway?


Here are links to all the sites now featuring Secret Subject Swap posts. Sit back, grab a cup, and check them all out. See you there: Baking In A Tornado The Bergham’s Life Chronicles Spatulas on Parade Dinosaur Superhero Mommy The Momisodes Stacy Sews and Schools Sparkly Poetic Weirdo Disneyland in Kentucky Southern Belle Charm The Lieber Family Someone Else’s Genius Confessions of a part-time working mom Battered Hope Small Talk Mama Searching for Sanity


  1. What I love most about these pictures is all the personality they show.
    And having made it through a year with one of my sons 700 miles away I couldn't agree more, it's the time spent together that counts.

  2. Love the pictures!!!!! So true, just being with your kids and enjoying the fact that you are a mom is a wonderful gift.There are so many women that don't get that joy, it's something we can never take for granted.

  3. I had to take a break from reading your post in order to take the Myers-Brigg test. I am a ISFP.

    I agree, the gift of time is the most precious one. Although, cheesecake ain't bad either. At all. Happy Mother's Day to you and your Mom!

  4. Time is the absolute best gift ever!!! Enjoy your Mother's Day!!!! :D
    I am INFP. ;)

  5. Not cheesy at all! Tell it like it is -- and the pics - BEAUTIFUL

  6. No better gift in the world than time with the kiddo~

  7. I love the photos and thank you for sharing your heart while using my prompt!

  8. Sounds like the perfect Mother's Day gift! Hope you found a great movie to watch MST3k-style! We watch many a movie that way at our house!